Hey guys,
Considering the sports experts that read this blog, I have a little situation on my hands.
I'm playing for a coach who I don't exactly love (strongly dislike, hate, take your pick). At the end of last season, I went to guest play for her (at that time I was on the C team and she was coach of the B team) and at the end of the game, she hadn't played me for 1 minute. When this season started, she was my only option. If I wanted to play, I had to play for her. So I did, and so far the same thing has been happening, she has given me hardly any playing time. And to top it off she hasn't been playing me in my natural position (which is midfield) instead she's been playing me at forward.
In our game last monday, she put me in the game (at forward of course) about midway through the first half. I got the ball and played a perfect ball to one of our best players which set him up for a one-on-one with the goalie. He shanked it, but still, good marks for me right? Wrong, she pulled me out a couple minutes later. I only got about 6-7 minutes in the first half. She didn't put me back in until there were about 15 minutes left and we were up by 3 goals. Which was a huge insult because it showed that she has no confidence in me whatsoever. So I go in and play my guts out. Of course she was playing me at forward, and after I had been in a couple minutes I SCORED! Despite the joy of scoring, this (in a way) made me even more frustrated with my coach. I GOT IN TWICE AND MADE GREAT PLAYS BOTH TIMES!
So I decided I would talk to her. After practice on Wednesday, I went up to her and asked her if there was anything I could do or change that might get me a little more playing time, her response was, "No, I mean you've been playing well and I appreciate that but I have to be loyal to my players first." WHAT!? To YOUR players, I AM YOUR PLAYER. And to top that off, she got 2 other new players this season who have been starting! So as I have thought about it, what she really told me was that how I was playing had nothing to do with how much playing time I got.
So why am I telling you this? I don't know, I guess I just need some love. What should I do? I don't have motivation to play now. And I don't want to quit, because that is exactly what she wants, and I won't give it to her. So if you have any secret motivation tactics or evil schemes I can use against her (besides egging and doorbell ditching, I've already done those-:) please tell me.
Shua
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what a lame coach...maybe she doesnt know who she is messing with...i will come up there and i have your back shua!!! I think if you just keep playing your best she will see what she is missing out on!!!
Sad to say, this is not a very unusual in Utah soccer. We have had several discussions with Pam/John Barlow's parents about it. It seems in Utah, you need to get on a team very early and then ride that team throughout HS. The current BYU womens soccer team has no less then 8 players that were coached by Pam's sister since they were 9-10 years old. Apparently she is very good, but she is not open to new players once she gets the chemistry on her team set.
Brad dealt with this when we first put him on a club team in BC. I was helping to coach the team, but this team had been together for 2-3 years and they had "chemistry". The only reason they let Brad play was because they had lost a player who had moved. It was really interesting because they had really depended on this other boy to do the majority of the scoring.
To make a long story shorter (ha,ha), Brad did not play the entire first half of the first game. About midway through the second half, they finally put him in the game. He got a yellow card in the first five minutes. He sat the rest of the game. The next game, they put him in after about half the first half, and they scored 2 goals. Still, in the second half, he was playing defender as a fill in kinda guy to let the other defenders have a breather. It went like this for about 4-5 games with the coach putting him in in various positions until finally, he put him back at striker for the rest of the season and the entire next season. It was a matter of just making plays and finally winning over the team and the coach. By the end, he was one of the top 3 players on the team and the coach could not say enough good things about him. But it was tough. Every coach is different, and if you don't have another option, I would just enjoy the practices and endure the games. It should get better.
Wow, that is really is a lame coach. What you got to do is score a goal, walk up to your coach on the sideline, give her a long stare(like 7 seconds), then just point at her and go play your position without saying a word. She may not like it but it would be really funny. All you need to do is show your coach that you will do whatever she wants and do it better that everyone else. Then once she realizes that she was a total moron, she'll start putting you at midfield.
Who knows, It may work. And she is a total moron for not playing you.
I was in a similar situation ( as my dad said) and i would have to say is dont complain. And definatly do not stop and give ur coach a death stare. That would just make her not wan to play you more and just blame it on attitude.
Just to let you know my dad kinda messed up the story. It is true i got a yellow card the first 5 minutes of my first game. But that was also the firsy game of the season. For the next 2-3 games i was in the same situation as you. my coach was playing me at midfield when i am, always will be a striker.
Then about halfway through the season the coach was not able to make a game so the assisant coach and he tried me at striker for the last 5 miutes of the second half. I scored one in the first half and 2 more in the second. needless to say i stayed there for the rest of the season.
ok you just need to talk to youi rteammates and ask them for there opions on the matter. then go tell your coach what they said. Then if things go real bad you should be like, "this is why women should not coach competive soccer becasue the prefer people they know rather than players than play better." J/k J/k do not say that. it will make your matter worse. just thank her for the playing time you get and tell her about how much you enjoy the practices and the time you get in the games.
dude, i'm with chris. you score and then you go up to her and say, "that's right son!" well that wouldn't make sense, so say, "that's right daughter!" there we go.
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